SO I have noticed a pattern occurring in my newly developed life. My every waking thought and action is somehow wrapped around the "we" aspect of my life and not so much the "me". I'm not talking about anything overly selfish but when every second of your day is spent making someone else happy, you kinda lose touch with who you were before hand. The pre-marriage you.
So I am making a conscious effort to spend a little time on my life. I love that Brandon is my world but he should never be my whole world, that is way to big a responsibility for him to handle. Also its unfair because then I start expecting more from him then I normally would and if he doesn't live up to that then it effects our relationship and it was never fair for me to expect him to fulfill my every need in the first place.
I reconnected with some old school friends tonight and it felt amazing. Even though it was a simple kind of night, it felt good doing something on my own. Not relying on Brandon for my needs of friendship or fun. It was refreshing and exciting. Plus I got some girl time in which hardly ever happens anymore and it made me smile just from the sheer relaxation of it all.
So here is my bit of advice to anyone newly married, don't lose complete touch with your old life even though it is so easy to do. Your marriage will thank you.
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